Should Men Buy Mother's Day Gifts for Their "Baby Mamas?"

I hope all mothers or women who play the role of mothers had a restful and enjoyable Mother's Day!  I enjoyed my day with family, food, and fun!

Every morning, I listen to the Rickey Smiley Morning Show and trust me, this crew makes my commute a better drive.  This morning wasn't an exception, I listen and Ebony Steele shared an email from a listener concerning Mother's Day gifts.  Here's the scenario:  A lady is dating a guy who has a child with another woman.  The lady and man are living together.  The man takes his child to go purchase a Mother's Day gift for the child's mom and the man also purchases a separate gift, a $400 bracelet.  The listener felt that the man shouldn't have done that because the gift was too expensive.  She wanted Ebony to give her advice/opinion.

As a wife with step-children, I feel that the man had good intentions and he should show his appreciation for his child's mother, but through his child.  The extra gift (the bracelet) was too much.  He should have just purchased one gift and allowed the child to give it to his/her mother.  Since he gave an additional gift from him personally, I feel there may be a  hidden agenda or he is still intimate with the child's mother.

Ebony Steele felt that a piece of jewelry means so much more than I appreciate you being a good mother.

Okay Kreative Talk family, it's on you:  Do you feel a man who is either married/dating with outside children should purchase gifts for his children's mother?  What are your opinions on this situation?

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Posted in: Dating,Gifts,Holidays,Marriage,Relationships

Change How You Think About It

My day started off in a bad way. My husband decides he doesn’t “feel like” being a parent today. He wants to alter the routine and not help get the princess ready for school. I’m a person of routine and rituals and if my day is altered in anyway, then I’m no good. So you know this threw my morning routine and time management for a loop. At first thought, I wasn’t going to say anything to my husband about his remark, but something (I know it was Satan, but I don’t want to give him any credit even when its credit for something bad) moved me and I entered the bedroom and began this long tantrum. In the end, I got our daughter dressed, grabbed whatever non perishable item for breakfast and was out the door. I mumbled under my breath about the entire ordeal all the way to work.

Once at work (the place where I feel I have reached my peak in the classroom and feel my place in education is outside of the classroom, but that’s a different post), I rush in just before the tardy bell rings for the students. I begin class as usual and administer the nine weeks exam to my first two periods and then it’s time for dreadful homeroom. I absolutely dislike my homeroom and we have been having homeroom twice a day for the last two weeks due to the graduation exam remediation. Again, I was ready to be mean to them on purpose and make them sit and be quiet or do some work for another class, but that wasn’t God’s plan. As I began my daily speech, one of my students says, “Hey Mrs. C., where did you get that poster?” I said, “What poster?” He says, “That poster that says, “If you can’t change it…change how you think about it.” I said, “I’m not sure I’ve had it for about eight years.” He says, “I like it, that’s fire.” I smiled and immediately returned to my desk without continuing my speech and sat at my computer and began to write this post. The students quietly talked among themselves.

All of this time I thought my homeroom class was a bunch of loud mouth annoying teenagers, but one of them made me realize that I need to think about situations differently.

“If you can’t change it…change how you think about it,” is going to be my new motto for the remainder of the school year and I am going to apply that to my non-work life as well. From now on I will just look at life and things differently with a different attitude and mindset.

Note:  This was written a couple of months ago before I decided to bring Kreative Talk back as my personal site.

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Posted in: Family Issues,Lakeshia's Corner

Happy Cinco de Mayo

Today is Cinco de Mayo (the fifth of May)!  Cinco de Mayo is celebrated to commemorate the Mexican army's victory over France at the Battle of Puebla during the French-Mexican War in 1862.

While Cinco de Mayo is a Mexican-America holiday, people of other cultures celebrate the holiday by gathering with friends and family to explore in the Mexican culture and heritage with food and drinks.

I will be celebrating Cinco de Mayo by enjoying some Mexican dishes with my family.  (Pictures to follow)

Kreative Talk Fans:  Leave me a comment telling if/how you will celebrate Cinco de Mayo and share with us your favorite Mexican dish or spirit recipe!

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Posted in: Holidays,Lakeshia's Corner

Star Wars Day: May the 4th Be With You

While on hallway duty today, one of my co-workers walked up to me and said "May the Fourth Be With You" and I said, "huh?"  She then said, "you don't get it, its Star Wars Day!...you know, "May the force be with you."  I said, "Ohhhh, there are so many holidays," then she walked away.  I guess I should have been more enthused, but I wasn't because I have never heard of such a holiday before. 

So, I decided to do some research and it turns out, today  is an unofficial holiday celebrating the George Lucas blockbusters, twisting the famous quote, "May the Force be with you" into "May the 4th be with you."

Star Wars Day seems to be very popular among fans and it is a Top Trending Topic on Twitter.

Since I didn't really acknowledge it today, I've written a post dedicated to it...maybe she'll read my blog, but if not, oh well.

Photo Source:  ABC News

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Posted in: Holidays,Lakeshia's Corner,Twitter

Kreative Talk Is Officially Back

Well, it has been a long time coming, but Kreative Talk is officially back in business.  As you guys can see, I have changed up the site a bit and now I'm ready to give you guys the best of the best when comes to family, relationships, parenting, etc.

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Posted in: Lakeshia's Corner,Misc.